Don’t Limit Yourself

Embrace the Boundless Horizons of Faith: Never Cage Your Spirit Where God Has Given You Wings to Soar

By Monica Ramos


I knew I had been in a slump for what seemed like forever, exhausted and working two jobs, challenges with being a single mom after divorce and feeling left behind and left out looking at other friends posts of their fabulous vacations, new homes, new cars, and new babies while I felt like I was barely making it, recycling cans and buying my clothes and dishes at thrift stores and garage sales.

Not that there is anything wrong with this, (I actually love going to thrift stores and garage sales) but I have to admit I felt jealous and a little bitter when I looked through others social media posts and compared my life to theirs.

And my negativity spilled out into every aspect of my life. I was little Miss Debbie Downer.

Well, yearly review time came at work and I knew I worked hard and had made my desire known that I felt I was deserving of a promotion.

So, I was thrilled when my boss called me and gave me a good review.

But then she said “If I could just offer you some feedback.”

And just like that the wind was knocked out of my sails. I could just feel what was coming next was going to be something I did not want to hear.

Well, it seemed like my negativity about myself and my beliefs in my capabilities of not being able to handle my transition into my new role had made its way back to my supervisor’s ears.

For lack of a better term “ugh.”

And although she stated she believed in me, I needed to believe in myself and I needed to start acting like I was capable of handling my new position because she knew I could.

And just like that it “clicked” in my mind.

I was actually limiting myself. I had almost stopped myself from going any farther in my company because of my UNBELIEF and NEGATIVITY.

Proverbs 18:21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it and indulge it will eat its fruit and bear the consequences of their words.

You know what I came to realize? If you don’t believe in yourself, who will? I was fortunate to have a boss that was able to see something in me that I was not able to see, but how often does that happen?

That was the wake up call I needed.

I have been truly grateful for those trips to the thrift store and all the surprises I was able to find there, and the kind lady that I met who let me pick the lemons off her tree for free so I was able to make my son that delicious cold lemonade, and for the lady who gave me a leather planner with the Bible scriptures already inside that seemed like they were there just for me.

Psalm 139:14 I will give thanks to You, because I am awesomely and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well.

Philippians 4:12-13

I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength.

You are unique and God made all of us with different talents and gifts. Just because your life may look different than another’s doesn’t mean it’s not good. Don’t waste your time being bitter because you don’t have everything you think you need. Be thankful for the trials, can you thank Him in the midst of trials? I know, it’s tough.

Romans 8:28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[a] have been called according to his purpose.

Now when that co-worker asks “How are you doing?” I answer “I am doing GREAT.”

Because I am doing great with an Awesome Father.

And I know you are too, because I believe in you, even if you don’t believe in yourself yet.